A House Repair Five Years in the Making

Five years ago a man fell through our ceiling. Well, technically it was only his foot, but it was enough to cause a scene. Enough to create a big hole and a big mess. Enough to scare the pants off our middle child who had been sitting at the table playing a game with a friend when a portion of the ceiling fell on top of them out of nowhere.

A man was in the attic because he'd come to repair a few places in our roof that were leaking. Eli was out of town and I was across the compound at the time of the incident. I came home to find my son sobbing on the porch, our missionary friend trying in vain to comfort him. And then I walked in to see this:

After the incident, we lived with a hole in the ceiling for a while because it was December and getting work done around the holidays is always difficult. When we did finally get the ceiling repaired, the job wasn't done well. The plaster cracked sooner than later and bits of ceiling regularly fell down onto the living room carpet and furniture. Rather than try to get the repair job repaired, Eli covered the crack with clear packaging tape to prevent more of our ceiling from raining down on us anymore. Then we promptly moved on with our lives.

Our ceiling has looked like this for the past five years:

Some might ask, "Why wouldn't you bother fixing your ceiling at some point in the past several years of opportunity? Wouldn't it be a fairly simple thing to do, and wouldn't you rather live with a decent ceiling than dwell under one like that?"

Good questions.

The answer is twofold: 1) tackling any sort of housing project here is such a headache that it's usually not worth it, and 2) we long ago stopped caring about such trivial concerns because living with a house that's not somehow falling down around you is unheard of. A ceiling taped into place? Just another day in Kenya. It's truly been a trivial matter.

What does move us to immediate action? The day I walked into our bedroom to discover that termites had literally eaten through the concrete walls and were beginning to invade our bedroom, having already eaten away part of a bookmark that was sitting on my bedside table, with the actual book next in line. That is something requiring immediate action.

Cracks in the ceiling? Nah. They can stay that way for years with nary a second thought.

Well, last week our ceiling was finally repaired, but it wasn't because we sought to repair it. We had other, more pressing issues to deal with: repair jobs that were a long time coming but had finally reached a point of demanding attention.

A different ceiling in our house was literally falling apart at the seams and it was not a situation that could be fixed with tape. Moisture in our bathroom had slowly eroded the ceiling until it dissolved and broke apart. Tiles were falling off the walls, paint was peeling, and cracks in the exterior walls rained down daily dirt particles.

It was not a pretty sight. But once again we couldn't find the motivation or energy to care for a long time. House repair projects? We wouldn't go near them with a ten-foot pole. We know too many people with too many stories of projects gone wrong, projects that take a thousand times longer than they're supposed to, projects that begin but never end (literally), projects that seem to take away years of your life before they're done.

We had no interest in opening that Pandora's box.

Two things finally made us pull the plug: 1) our househelper urged us to fix the bathroom because she couldn't clean well in there with the ceiling and walls falling in around her, and 2) we returned from HMA to discover a wall in our classroom suffering from the moisture in the concrete, causing the paint to bubble profusely, dissolve, and fall onto the books below.

If there's one thing to make Mama Horn spring into action, it's a Book Rescue!

Between the two projects, we knew it was finally time to get some guys to come do the necessary repairs to the two rooms.

When they came to assess the situation, the maintenance guys immediately took notice of the taped ceiling in our living room that we had disregarded for the past five years. They looked at it and tsked. They declared, before even laying eyes on the actual projects they'd come to do, that they would fix the ceiling. They were unwilling to let such a ceiling exist in our house.

What we had ignored for years, they could not ignore. They added one more item to the list of everything they needed to accomplish in our house.

It was encouraging, but also surprising. I'm not joking when I say that such a thing is a trivial matter in a place like this. People all over this region live in subpar situations. People live without running water, without indoor plumbing, without electricity. Our cracked ceiling pales in comparison. But these men saw it right away and deemed it a necessary fix. We are grateful, especially since we weren't even going to bother asking them to take a look at it.

I eventually asked myself, "Was the fact that we gave up on repairing our ceiling a matter of laziness or a point of practicing contentment?"

I think it's both.

Some things cost too much time and energy to care. And some things simply won't ever find their way to the front burner because there are too many other fish to fry. And almost all things require a certain amount of emotional bandwidth to tackle. When considering everything that's already draining our daily bandwidth, something like a ceiling held up with tape hadn't registered in years.

I once heard of a missionary, also living in my host country, who had the time to do regular yoga sessions and meet people for coffee. I was astonished. Granted, her life and ministry were much different than ours - life in the capital city has certain amenities that don't exist in a rural town upcountry like ours, and non-medical ministry doesn't typically come with call schedules. This woman's life had bandwidth. I doubt her house had any rooms with cracks in the ceiling that remained there for years on end.

How I wish all missionaries could have that kind of bandwidth! How I wish no one had to give up on basic house maintenance because it just isn't worth the time or energy! How I wish our ministries could benefit from an overflow of emotional bandwidth!

But also, how I wish all missionaries could practice and exemplify more contentment! How I wish no one had to lose sight of what mattered most because a living space isn't up to their personal standards! How I wish our ministries wouldn't suffer from an overflow of unrealistic expectations and subsequent dissatisfaction. (I say this because I also know of situations in which missionaries were so concerned about house projects that it absorbed their focus to the detriment of all else.)

Did we become lazy in fixing our ceiling? Perhaps. Did we follow Paul's example to "be content in all circumstances" whether our house was in its best state or not (Philippians 4:11-12)? I suppose so.

I think the only thing we could have done differently would be to stop and ask ourselves, "Are we being lazy or content in this?" It can be difficult to know the difference, but it's worth asking because one is formed from a human heart and the other is born from a God-fearing heart.

We are people who pride ourselves on being content. It's been a foundational value of our marriage since the beginning, and it's something we've regularly discussed with our children and established as part of our family culture. There is far too little contentment in the world, and we hope to exude whatever contentment we can. But we also want to be diligent, intentional change-makers, which means choosing a path of action. In the future, I hope to pause and ask myself that question as needed: "Are we being lazy or content in this?"

How can we know when to let something stay on the back burner or move it to the front burner? The answer lies in asking the Lord. He is the one who anointed David king over Israel, and yet made him wait 15 years before becoming king over Judah, and another 7 years before becoming king over all Israel. He is also the one who led Paul to move on to the next city, or to remain where he was for a while.

God knows when we should stay still and when we should act. Our task is to seek Him in all things, even trivial things like a ceiling held in place with tape.

Big Questions from Little Hearts

"Mama, will I go to heaven?"

It was bedtime, the light had been turned off, and I was saying a final goodnight to his brothers. My youngest beckoned me over and whispered this question in my ear. I was surprised, not only because it seemingly came out of nowhere but also because I knew that my son already knew the answer to his own question. Yet clearly something had prompted Asa to wonder anew about his salvation.

"Do you believe in Jesus?" I asked.

"Yes," he answered without hesitation.

"Then, yes, you'll go to heaven." I reminded him what the Bible teaches us: that all we have to do is believe in Jesus and we'll be with Him in heaven. Referencing John 1:12, which we had just read earlier that day, I said, "Yet to all who received Him, to those who believed in His name, He gave the right to become children of God."

The truth is that we don't have to do anything special to be saved. We don't have to do anything at all. Jesus alone did what needed to be done, and beyond that we don't need to do anything to be in God's good graces.

The comforting assurance I meant to impart to my son did not come. Asa was restless, agitated even.

"But what if I'm not committed?" he asked. "Like Paul. What if I'm not committed like he is?"

"Do you mean, what if you're not as great a Christian as Paul was?"

"Yeah."

Oh, precious son of mine! How the human heart so easily betrays us and questions the truths of God! Yet what follower of Jesus hasn't asked this question in some form? The variations are many, but the essence is the same: Have I done enough? Am I enough?

Often these moments of self-doubt come on the heels of comparison. Have I done enough, like that person? Am I enough, like that person?

Asa was thinking about the apostle Paul and felt that he couldn't compare with such a man, couldn't live up to someone of such commitment.

It's an idea that we are familiar with - the notion that missionaries and other people in ministry are on a pedestal - and an idea that we soundly denounce. But the human heart has a way of convincing us that we are not enough, even if we've been taught and nurtured to know and believe otherwise.

I am a missionary, like Paul. Will I ever have the same kind of impact that Paul had? No, certainly not. I am confident of that. But I am no less worthy of God's love and salvation, no less worthy of His attention, than the apostle Paul. I believe in Jesus, just like Paul did. And I am secure in Christ because of my belief.

So is my son. I reminded him that when Jesus died on the cross, there were two other people crucified at the same time, right next to Him. They were both criminals and one of them, while dying on his own cross, realized who Jesus was and believed in Him then and there. And Jesus said to him, "Today you will be with me in paradise." I told Asa, "That man was a thief and had made some bad decisions in his life, but none of that mattered in the end. The only thing that mattered was that he believed in Jesus. Remember the verse we were just talking about? All we have to do is believe. That's it."

When we do believe, hopefully we'll want to live in a way that glorifies God and pleases His heart. "We'll keep making mistakes our whole life," I said, "because we'll still be sinners our whole life, but hopefully our love for God will impact the way we live and impact the choices we make."

Which brought us back to Paul. Paul loved the Lord and his life was never the same after he made a decision to believe in Jesus. His complete devotion to the Lord was rather awe-inspiring. As my son noted, Paul was truly committed to Jesus.

But the good news is that we don't have to follow in Paul's footsteps in order to love God and glorify Him. We don't have to be a missionary or a pastor or a preacher or do any other kind of intentional ministry. We can love God and bring Him glory in a myriad of ways as we pursue the gifts He has given us.

"Did you know your grandma has been a singer her whole life?" I asked Asa. His head perked up - that kid is a singing machine and was clearly invested in where this conversation was going. "She's been singing ever since she was a kid. And she has been glorifying God by singing her whole life. God gave her the gift of singing, and she loves it and is passionate about it, and she glorifies God and pleases His heart just by singing."

I gave him another example. "What did your grandpa do for a job?"

"He was a doctor."

"Right. Was he a missionary doctor like your dad?"

"No."

"Right. He was a regular doctor in Michigan for decades. And he glorified God by being a doctor. We can all glorify God and please His heart by being regular people doing regular things. Isn't that good news?"

"Mmm hmm."

I asked if he knew what God said is the greatest commandment? Asa shook his head. "To love God with all your heart, mind, soul, and strength. That's it: love God." I assured him there are many ways we can love God. We can do it by singing, or praying, or working hard, or by doing nothing and resting!

"Did you know that one of the Ten Commandments is to observe the Sabbath and just rest?" Asa did not know that, and judging by the look on his face he was either confounded or amazed or both. (But aren't we all a bit confounded and amazed by that truth?) "We can love God by doing nothing! Isn't that great?" Asa nodded and smiled.

I have said many times that the only true calling any of us have is to love God back. How we do that will look as different as each set of fingerprints on the planet. But at the end of the day (and the end of our time here on earth), the only thing that will matter is if we've responded to the invitation to love God back.

My prayer for our children is that they'll know how loved and cherished they are, and that they'll choose to love God in return. If they do, nothing else matters. The details of how they spend their days and what they do with their lives will be of little consequence because, ultimately, they'll be spending their days and their whole lives loving God.

And, hopefully, their love for Him will impact the way they live. That is true for all of us: our love for God helps us to glorify Him.

"Is Dad glorifying God by not coming home?" Asa asked.

Context: Earlier we'd learned that Eli would not be coming home in time to see the boys before bed like we'd thought. He was flying back from Minnesota and was currently stuck in Chicago with no clear answer as to when he'd make it home. Asa had been rather upset at the news, and now he asked an insightfully good question.

Here's what I said:

"I think Dad can glorify God whether he stays in Chicago or whether he comes home. You know why? Because I think glorifying God is less about whether our plans succeed or not and more about how we respond to our plans succeeding or not. If Dad lets his disappointment and frustration make him speak with anger to other people, then he's not glorifying God. But if he chooses to be patient and content, if he speaks to the airline employees with kindness and gratefulness, then he's glorifying God."

To make a final point, I asked him, "Do you remember the fruits of the Spirit?" (On a side note, when I recited them for Asa he corrected me that I'd forgotten about goodness. That precious child of mine knows his Scripture!) "If Dad is loving and kind and patient and so forth, then he is glorifying God whether he comes home tonight or not."

Asa nodded, no longer restless or agitated. This little believer in Jesus has a heart trying to understand Him more, and I praise the Lord for these opportunities to think through these important questions together and remember the truths He's given us.

Heaven is waiting for all who believe in Jesus. And as I've said before and will keep on saying, the only true calling any of us have is to love God back. But let me add an addendum: The only true calling any of us have is to love God back and to allow that love for Him to help us glorify Him forever.

The Ministry of Discipleship

Anyone who's heard us talk about our life and ministry in Kenya knows how passionate we are about training the next generation of African doctors. This is why:

This current map from the World Health Organization shows the global distribution of physicians, showing the number of doctors per 10,000 people. The darker blue areas have the most doctors while the lightest blue areas have the least. Here's the fact that stirs our hearts to action: the continent of Africa has, on average, less than 1 doctor per 40,000 people.

The reality is stark. Simply put, Africa needs more doctors. It also needs healthcare systems with an infrastructure that can support doctors and the supplies and equipment necessary for treating patients.

Our main role in improving healthcare in Africa is to train Family Medicine physicians. I've written before about why we train African doctors, but I haven't yet written about another aspect of what we do, which is equally important.

Not only does Africa need more doctors, but it needs doctors who are Christian leaders.  How do we aspire to achieve this goal? By training them in every facet of the job – how to be a compassionate healthcare provider who seeks to meet the spiritual needs of the patients as well as their physical needs, and how to be a Christian doctor who fights for just and merciful healthcare systems.

What is our method for training them to not only be doctors, but Christian physician leaders?

We disciple them.

What exactly is discipleship? It’s learning how to be disciples, and Christian discipleship is specifically learning how to follow Jesus.

Typically, discipleship doesn’t just happen in a vacuum. Nor does it happen overnight. In truth, it’s a lifelong process. We’re all on a journey of learning to love Jesus back and to follow Him throughout the course of our life. But it’s a process. And it’s a process modeled by Jesus.

Jesus came into the world to save us from our sins. He is the Good News. But not only did He make the sacrifice required to rescue us from sin, He spent time teaching people the truth of God’s love. He spent time proclaiming a message that there’s a better way to live this life than what our sinful hearts are inclined to think and do. We are meant to love God back, and to love each other too.

But Jesus came not only to deliver a message. He came to live out that message with the purpose of demonstrating His love for us and serving as an example for us. Jesus spent time building relationships with people, walking alongside them to help them understand Him and His ways better, and to guide them as they learned to apply His principles.

And that kind of process takes time. Jesus chose twelve specific people to be His disciples – as a starting point – and He spent three years in close proximity with them, intentionally investing in them and helping them grow in knowledge and wisdom and spiritual maturity.

For example, He taught them parables about faith as small as a mustard seed, and he also healed a woman who’d been bleeding for 12 years because her faith was the size of believing that if she could just touch His cloak without being noticed she would be healed – and she was – which served as an example of what that kind of faith looks like. Jesus wanted His disciples to learn from her. Jesus also taught His disciples about prayer, then exemplified prayer for them, both praying in public and removing Himself from everyone and everything in order to pray alone.

Jesus brought a message and He lived that message day in, day out, for His disciples to learn firsthand what it meant to love the Lord wholeheartedly and follow Him.

And the process of discipleship takes time.

Years. Decades. A Lifetime.

We know very well from the Gospels that even though the twelve disciples spent so much close time with Jesus, they were continually confused about a myriad of things throughout that time. They were watching the humble example of Jesus...and were still choosing to speak pridefully. They were listening to His parables...and still had no idea what He was talking about. They were hearing Him say that He would die and rise again three days later...and were clueless that He was speaking literally and seriously. The disciples were bumbling their way through understanding Jesus and trying to follow Him (which I love it because it provides a sense of camaraderie in all of my own bumbling!).

The point is this: learning the ways of Jesus, learning His Word and how to apply it in our daily lives, is an ongoing process. It’s a lifelong process, and somehow along the way, by God’s grace, the journey of maturing spiritually will result in us bearing good fruit.

Jesus spoke about this to His disciples shortly before He was crucified. At the end of their 3-year journey together, the end of their in-person, day in, day out time together, this was one of the things Jesus said to them:

“This is to my Father’s glory, that you bear much fruit, showing yourselves to be my disciples” (John 15:8).

What a clear and striking picture of discipleship! Disciples of Jesus are meant to bear fruit, which in turn glorifies the Father.

As noted, discipleship is a lifelong process for all of us, but there are seasons of life in which discipleship can be particularly intentional – times when we allow ourselves to be poured into, and times when we pour ourselves back into others.

As Eli and I have undertaken the ministry of discipleship, we’ve come to realize that’s really what it is: taking what has been poured into you and choosing to pour it back out. Our offerings can take many forms – knowledge, education, resources, life experiences. The Lord uses all manner of things so we can both be discipled and do the work of discipling others throughout our life.

As we live and minister in Kenya, we’re trying to be intentional and strategic in how we use the four years we’ve been given with each Family Medicine resident. We teach them and try to model how to be disciples of Jesus. We do this in hopes that they’ll be well prepared to bear good fruit when it’s their time to leave Chogoria and move on to the next place God has called them to, giving glory to the Father wherever they go.

We've been in Kenya for eight years now and have seen five graduating classes emerge from the residency program. We're in a marvelous season of seeing what God is doing with these graduates after they leave the program and pursue medicine and ministry beyond their residency training. We're seeing them understand the Bible more (thanks in large part to Eli's commitment to discussing How to Read the Bible for All Its Worth as part of their spiritual curriculum), we're seeing them step up to host Bible Study, we're hearing them consider mission work for the first time, we're seeing them take on leadership roles at hospitals around the country, we're seeing them move far away from family to pursue ministry among non-Christian patient populations, and we're seeing them make concrete plans to move back to their home countries in order to build up the healthcare system in some of the poorest places on the planet.

These men and women are disciples of Jesus, and they are bearing good fruit. What a privilege, what an honor, what a joy to participate in training and discipling the next generation of Christian physician leaders for Africa!

Life and Death: Nature Speaks

A couple months ago I took extra notice of the vibrant colors around Chogoria.  We had seen photos of the fall colors in the Midwest where our families are - a time of year we always miss - and in an effort to appreciate the beauty in front of me I simply looked up as I walked around our compound.  No leaves change color here on the equator, but there are colors aplenty because flowers are perpetually in bloom.

We are surrounded by color.  Whereas the colors of autumn in the Midwest remind us of death, the colors in this "Land of Eternal Spring" remind us of life.

To be sure, the flowers here follow cycles of life and death like flowers do everywhere, but there is no one season where everything dies all at once.  We never find ourselves surrounded by barrenness.  When one plant loses its flowers, there are plenty more still in full bloom.

Because of where I grew up, I used to think of seasons as either being full of life or death.  Spring and summer were seasons of life, autumn and winter were seasons of death.  Here in Chogoria, we see life and death juxtaposed every day.  They live in tandem, neighbors and allies.  When the flowers of the flame tree fall and litter the ground with their bright orange petals, the frangipani blooms are clinging to their tree and filling the air with their fragrance.  When the purple jacarandas are shriveling under my feet, the pink oleanders are swaying in the breeze.

Life and death coexist year-round, and there is beauty and purpose in both.  It reminds me of the words of Paul in Philippians 1:20b-21: "Now as always Christ will be exalted in my body, whether by life or death.  For to me, to live is Christ and to die is gain."

Our Bible Study has been reading Acts, and so much of the early church's story is about living in the tension between their new life in Christ and the increasing threat to their physical lives.  But what Paul said is true: whether by life or death, Christ will be exalted.

Nature speaks into this truth.  Whether the jacaranda tree is in full bloom, or whether the flowers have long since fallen and turned to dust, the tree gives glory to God.  

Even the sun, which is a dying star, gives light and life to all it reaches.  Nature shouts at us with metaphors about life and death, if we are willing to listen.

As I was missing autumn a couple months ago, my 6th graders were memorizing a poem for school called Come, Little Leaves by George Cooper.  It's about leaves falling, and it's about contentment.  The leaves are not portrayed as dying, but as playing, dancing, and flying.  They are doing what they must, but they are doing it with acceptance and even joy.  My favorite line of the poem is this: "Dancing and whirling, the little leaves went; Winter had called them, and they were content."

Even in death, they were content.  Because nature knows what we are still trying to understand and accept: that whether by life or by death, Christ will be exalted.

Life glorifies God.

Death glorifies God.

Because all of life and death ultimately comes from God.

We are surrounded by both life and death year-round in Chogoria, and we bear witness to the exaltation of the Lord because of it.  The hibiscus and poinsettias are proclaiming the glory of the Lord outside the window right now, and they will proclaim His glory when it's their turn to fade because He who has made them has ordained it to be so.  They submit themselves to the Creator who grants all of life and death.  And they are content.

I pray it will also be so with me.

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The song Every Season by Nichole Nordeman is a favorite of mine because of how beautifully it captures the metaphor of the changing seasons and our lives in Christ.  I encourage you to take a listen.